After loss and life transitions, you might be feeling as if the world you were living in no longer exists.
You might be feeling a great deal of uncertainty for the future, for the world.
You might be feeling that your identity is now compromised and you no longer see your way ahead.
Identity and empowerment go hand and hand. You cannot grow without exploring who you were, where are you now, and where would you like to go.
You might be feeling that you are no longer who you were. The truth is, you will never be the same again. There is no magic pill or magic wand to give you back what you have lost as an individual. However, there are tools you can use to redefine and rebuild yourself in a way that perhaps you never knew you could.
The most important step to change is willingness. Ask yourself what are you willing to live with in your life, but just as important what are you not willing to live with in your life. For example, you might be willing to start putting some money away for fun because you are not willing to live a life where you only work.
You might be willing to reach out for help because you are no longer willing to do it all on your own. These are general examples trying to convey an idea, and please start small.
The most important thing you can do to empower yourself after the loss of any kind is to First, honor your loved one in any way you feel necessary and Second, honor and love yourself.
To have a loss is to be human. Because we love, we grief with each loss; we add on to our layers of experience. We always hold the ability to honor our losses with grace and dignity. There is nothing weak or small about this journey. I invite you to open up to your empowered sense of self as you continue to feel your grief. Allow grief and empowerment to exist together hand in hand. This is both natural and life-transforming!